We will be focusing on Emotional Intelligence. Please access the following in order to build a better understanding of how you can help build your increase your child’s EQ. The Mood Meter found on this website can also be downloaded as an app.
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Emotion Regulation Toolbox – The photo below shows the tools that your student is currently equipped with. These tools were given to aid in shifting from red or blues to other more pleasant colors. They work for grownups too:) The description below shows an example of how each tool can be utilized.
Principle of the Harvest – This tool reminds them that only the seeds they water and give sunlight to will grow. For example, if I struggle with fear and I water it and give it sunlight by watching the news or scary Netflix shows, then I am going to have a harvest of fear. To cut off the growth of that seed, I must cut off the supply of water and sunlight.
Mindfulness with the 5 senses – Mindfulness is a great skill for your child to have. There are SO many resources to help with this concept. Grounding with the 5 senses is one way. If a child is anxious or angry, they “ground” by simply saying what they see, hear, taste, smell, and feel. This is also a great tool for people who have busy minds at bedtime. This keeps you rooted in the here and now in a non-judgemental way.
Lenses -This tool utilizes the power of perspective. For example, if I am struggling with confidence and look in the mirror through my “I am ugly” lenses, I will notice my flaws. If I switch my lenses to my “I am beautiful” lenses, I will notice the things I like about myself. While nothing changes about my physical appearance, the place from which I am pursuing my day does change. This tool works in several circumstances.
Breathing – There are several ways to regulate with breathing. The favorite among kiddos here is the Hot Chocolate breathing. To do this, they simply imagine a cup of hot chocolate in their hands. They breathe it in really deep and then blow out slowly to cool it. There are so many great breathing exercises online to do with your child as well.
Control Circle – This tool requires them to think about everything outside of the circle that they can’t control (other people, world issues, the assignments my teacher gives me etc). Then, on the inside, they focus on what they can control to make a situation a little better for them. For example, a child is overwhelmed by a Friday assessment…...They cannot control the assignment; however, they can control what they are thinking/doing/saying to themselves before the test. They can control how much they study. They can control if they pay attention in class. This one is a great tool to have as we are in a season where a lot is happening beyond our control.
Wise Mind- This tool is a regulation technique where you have emotional mind on one side and reasonable mind on the other. Our nature is to go back and forth between the two sides. Where they intersect is called Wise Mind. It works like this. I did not get invited to the birthday party and emotional mind says….nobody likes me, I am a loser, I feel rejected etc. Reasonable mind says…...I know they could only invite 3 people and we are not that close, I did not invite them to mine either., etc). Instead, of going back in forth, Wise Mind says those are both true AND how to I want to walk this out. So, I feel rejected AND I know we are not super close so I am going to intentional choose to find something else fun to do on Friday.
Take A Break – This tool reinforces the power of stepping away from a situation to regulate. Our poster lists 50 ways to do this. If you use this tool with your child, it is important that they come full circle with whatever the situation was after they take a break. In other words, we don’t take a permanent break. Instead, we take a break and then come back to resolve/discuss the issue.
Fill your Brain – This works by helping your child not hyperfocus on something that is creating a situation for them to remain in an unpleasant emotion. For example, if your child is focusing on EVERY SINGLE sound at night and staying in a place of fear. Instead, we give our brain a task to do that does not elicit an emotional response. For example, counting backward from 100, naming their favorite characters from a show, etc.
Flexible Thinking – This tool works by forcing them to consider two other options other than the one that made them experience that emotional response. A great example of this is: Student A gave me a dirty look. They must not like me and think I am ugly. Force your brain to consider two other reasons why Student A looked at me that way. 1) They were not even looking at me. Instead, they were looking in my direction and they were annoyed about something else. 2) They saw you carrying in your project and realized they forgot theirs at home. The look was not disgust with you it was disgust with themselves. When you walk this process out, the original thought does not seem to hold as much wait and the emotional response lowers.
We will also be focusing on Kindness this year. Students will be working on kindness in many capacities and will have access to multiple learning opportunities regarding how to be kind and build relationships.
College & Career growth will be acquired in a variety of engaging ways including outside presenters. Below, I have attached an image to show you how I have worked with students to prepare and set goals for their future.
The flipbook is such a fun tool for your student to be able to look at different career pathways.